Every family, at some point, battles a dark cloud. I thought my family had battled & overcome that dark cloud about six years ago after the car accident in Bennington – I was wrong.
In March 2017, my sister decided she would explore the world as an “adult,” away from her family. In non sugar-coated words, she ran away. No note. No known location. No point of contact. For more than 24 hours, we did not know where she went, just who she went with.
My sister is in a domestically abusive relationship.
My family has been battling the darkest cloud for 10 months now. After countless texts & phone calls reaching out, offers to help in any way, and continued validation of her worth, I’ve come to realize she just doesn’t want to be helped right now.
My sister is in a domestically abusive relationship. And chances are, someone you know (a co-worker, distant relative, close friend) is in one, too. So since we can’t help her yet, I’m making an effort to help others like her.
This is what abuse looks like…
- Prevents or discourages you from going to work or school or seeing family members or friends.
- Threatens to kill themselves.
- Having a partner who constantly puts you down or calls you names.
- Destroys your property.
- Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol.
- Gaslighting: a form of emotional abuse that causes the victim to question their own feelings, instincts & sanity, which gives the abuser all the power.
This is how you can help…
- Be patient. Abrupt movement of any kind can trigger the victim to remain quiet or close themselves off.
- Be confidential. If the victim reaches out & is not in immediate danger, don’t make a big deal about it. You never know how you can hurt the situation if that contact is noticed by the abuser.
- Offer information, not advice.
- Tell the family. If only we knew what others knew before it happened.
If you see something, hear something, or sense something, please don’t stay quiet.
If you think someone is in a domestically abusive relationship, please click the links below, educate yourself & learn how to show support.
What is gaslighting?
Recognize the patterns & seek help.
Who to call…
- The Bridge (local) 24 hour crisis line: 1-888-721-4340
- The National Domestic Violence hotline: 1−800−799−7233
Domestic abuse is real. And it can happen to the smartest, prettiest, funniest people. Please, don’t stay quiet.
Information above was adapted from the following websites: