“Push Pause”

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A wise man once told me that “sometimes you just need to push pause and head to Mexico.” So that’s what we did. And in case you’re wondering, that ‘wise man’ was my husband.

You may have noticed I’ve been a little MIA on here lately. I promise there is a good excuse for that (there always is, isn’t there?!) but that’s another story at another time.

For now, here are a few stories from our time in Puerto Vallarta this past weekend. We stayed at this beautiful resort, had a room that overlooked the ocean and enjoyed exchanging our cell phone use for sunburns + bottomless mojitos.

♥ You’d be surprised how “at home” you can feel in Mexico when almost every couple you talk to is from the Midwest. Seriously, no exaggeration.

♥ On our last full day, my macho hubby stubbed his toe on a rock in the ocean, which prevented us from going into the water for the remainder of our time. Yes – I pretended like it was no problemo. No – he doesn’t know I was secretly upset (until now).

♥ We definitely realized how much of an “old married couple” we are. The resort had parties every night + we honestly intended on going to them all. But by 9pm we called it a night + fell asleep to cable movies with Spanish subtitles.

We made a goal to “travel more” within the next couple of years. So if you have suggestions on where our next stop should be, let us know!

It’s good to be back. Thanks for reading ♥

xo . t


Lifestyle Shoot

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I just love this little gallery wall we created.

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This photo makes me laugh! As you can see…there’s nothing in those cups! #posers


I believe in giving credit where credit is due. Before we sold our home, I wanted to do a short lifestyle shoot to help remember the spaces that created wonderful memories for us. We absolutely love the work of Maria Smal Photography + can’t wait to work with her again!

Lessons Learned


As first-time home owners turned first-time sellers, there were so many lessons learned about preparing our home to sell & the whole selling process in general. Putting your home on the market, allowing strangers to walk through and judge everything you’ve worked hard on + waiting for the “perfect offer” is not for the faint of heart. Then you have to squeeze in packing, checking off last-minute First Home Bucket List items + trying not to be a complete grinch to your S/O (which I totally was – sorry Matty). So I’ve compiled a list of things to remember for next time we sell – which will hopefully be never because hello, dream house in progress (include all the heart eyes here)!

  1. Don’t take anything personally. People aren’t going to like your cleaning capabilities, your backyard, your asking price, the fact that you have big dogs… oh well. Be proud of the home you’ve created.
  2. There is no such thing as a “perfect offer.” And even if you think there is, they end up asking for your washer/dryer, homemade dog house + to replace ONE SHINGLE on the roof.
  3. Having early morning showings during the week + making it to work on-time is nearly impossible. Yes, we have dogs. No, we don’t have kids. It’s still hard.
  4. Don’t buy cheap packing tape to save money. You’ll end up using 3x the amount + have to buy more.
  5. Everyone + their brother takes things to Goodwill on Sundays when it’s rainy. Dare to be different just to skip lines.
  6. Order a change of address with USPS before you move out, not three days after. Oops.
  7. Spending your last night eating chinese food on the floor of your empty home may sound romantic, but it’s not. You’ll end up getting 654813 flakes of dirt + dog hair mixed into your food.
  8. Love on your S/O. They’re not the enemy – people who say “thanks, but no thanks” to your home are. Okay – I’m exaggerating, but you get what I’m saying.
  9. Working with a realtor is 100% easier than For Sale by Owner. Less headaches, less stress, more people to turn to for questions.

We loved working with Ryan and Laura Schwarz to sell our home.
If you’re looking for a realtor in the Bennington area, we highly recommend them!

Thanks for reading.
xo . t

A letter to the new owners of 8618…

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photo credit: Maria Smal Photography 

We will officially lock the doors on our first home for the last time on Thursday. Even just typing that creates a huge lump in my throat. For the last 2.5 years, our little 8618 has been a place of firsts. And with that, here’s a letter to the new owners:

We are so happy that your little family is about to make our home yours. We sincerely hope that this house gives you everything it has given us in the past 2.5 years + more. Your nextdoor neighbors are some of the kindest people – keep an eye on them for us. When the weather is nice, the neighborhood girls will most likely leave their bikes in the driveway + play by the tree in the front yard – enjoy this + say hi to them. The house may be cozy, but throw parties – the deck in the backyard is the best hostess. The firepit (+ a couple bottles of wine) is the best cure for a rough day. And don’t worry too much if the grass gets too long – it just means you’re spending time on the more important things. But most of all, remember that “love grows best in little houses, with fewer walls to separate; where you can eat + sleep so close together you can’t help but to communicate; + if we had more room between us think of all we’d miss; love grows best in little houses just like this.”

And to our sweet, little 8618 – thank you.
Thank you for providing us 2.5 years of firsts, withstanding storms, providing comfort + helping us grow. We’ve enjoyed our time in the city limits, but it’s time we go back to our roots.

xo . t

Trusting & Trying

Here’s what I believe: When something is going really good in life + you are truly happy, Satan slithers his way in + tries to knock you down. I’ve been letting this happen way too much lately. Let me explain a little more; here’s what happened Monday…

We were getting new carpet installed  + were signing with our contractor to begin the building process of our forever-home at the same time. Total cloud 9 moment. Then we got a phone call saying our carpet installation wasn’t going the way we planned. In moments like this, I usually say a little Sunday School phrase from back in the day, “I believe in Jesus, Satan take a hike!” Because I truly believe that declaring my love + belief in the Lord will wash away all the bad ju-ju happeneing in that moment. But wouldn’t ya know, that wasn’t the end of it. Throughout the day, we had thing after thing happen to throw us off of the path that we put ourselves on. And that was the problem. We were trying to control the situation instead of just sitting back + letting Him take over. We had opportunity after opportunity to give into the temptation of getting upset about the “bad” things happening (not going to lie, I let it get to me a couple of times) instead of focusing on the good + exciting leaps we were taking.

We’re now two days past those bumps in the road + we have beautiful new carpet, our home is officially on the market, and we’re projected to move into our forever-home in December. So it leads me to wonder why it’s so hard to just trust that things are going to be okay instead of letting those tiny stressers in life take over. Because there’s a lot of good happening in our life right now… we’re getting ready to sell our first house, we’re in the process of building our forever-home, we both love our jobs,  my list could go on + on.

So here’s to trusting + trying.
May we all choose to celebrate the good in life + overcome the bad.

xo . t

Meet My Main Squeeze

I want to introduce you to the one who inspires me + pushes me to grab life by the…marbles. Whether you know him outside of this blogger-world or not, I want to shed light on just how simply amazing Matthew is. Sorry (or not) in advance for gushing.

First of all, Matt is a firefighter – which you may have read on my About Me page. He is the most self-less, compassionate, strong-willed person I know. His drive for success, both in life + work, keeps him going, even when he’s running off of 3 hours of sleep in 3 days. While it’s tough spending holidays+birthdays+nights apart, I’m incredibly grateful that my husband gets to be someone else’s hero, too.

Since we began this life journey (back in 2008!), he has constantly challenged me. Every day I am challenged to be a better wife, friend, sister, daughter, Christ follower, etc. + I have him to thank for that.

I love lists. So here’s some of my favorite things about my Matty:

  1. He sold his 2nd love (b/c I was his first, duh) so I could get a more practical vehicle.
  2. He cheers for the underdog. i.e. Mizzou football 😉
  3. He isn’t a touchy-feely guy, but always gives in to my plea to cuddle.
  4. He’s very superstitious + never misses out on the opportunity to ‘knock on wood.’
  5. He has a mustache + ROCKS IT.
  6. He loves to jam out in the car but is horrible at remembering lyrics. It cracks me up every time.
  7. He’s a family man + makes sure that we see our families at least once a week.
  8. When he likes something, he really likes it. Netflix shows, songs, food, you name it. He never tires of watching or listening to the same thing over + over again.
  9. He’s a faithful Christ follower.
  10. He shares my desire to celebrate constantly.
  11. He feels most comfortable in greasy clothes + dirty boots, but enjoys throwing on a button-down + blazer to make his woman happy!
  12. He loves adventure + dancing + making fool of himself.
  13. He tried living his life like Ted Mosby (HIMYM), but now is an aspiring Ron Swanson (P&R).
  14. He makes me laugh everyday.

Now, I could go on+on about my man-bestie but I promised myself I would keep these posts short ‘n’ sweet. Thanks for reading.Image result for lips emoji
xo . t


We Are (all) Wickham

Matthew + I moved into our first home in September 2015. In 2 1/2 years we’ve learned a lot about owning a house, creating a home + dealing with conflicts. And wouldn’t ya know… after 2 1/2 years of truly being on our own, we’re about to move back in with our parents. Can’t you hear my enthusiasm?! All jokes aside, we are incredibly blessed to have the option of living with Matt’s parents while we build our dream house. So stay tuned, because I can promise some hiliarious/embarrassing/juicy stories will be coming in the next few (10!) months. Especially because Matt’s sister and her family will be moving in too!

For 10 months, most Wickham’s will be under one roof; giving a whole new meaning to our “We Are Wickham” mindset. Let the never-ending family dinners begin!

But really, please don’t mistake my sarcasm for being ungrateful. We are so so thankful for this opportunity to live with family + save money.

XO . T

photo by: Mapel Creek Photography